CONSENT at events for new AND experienced people!
Consent is: FRIES:
F - Freely given. Doing something intimate with someone is a decision that should be made without pressure, force, manipulation, or while drunk or high.
R - Reversible. Anyone can change their mind about what they want to do, at any time. Even if you’ve done it before or are in the middle of being intimate.
I - Informed. Be honest. For example, if someone says they’ll use a condom when you get home and then they don’t, that’s not consent.
E - Enthusiastic. If someone isn’t excited, or really into it, that’s not consent.
S - Specific. Saying yes to one thing (like going to the bedroom to make out) doesn’t mean they’ve said yes to others.
Also remember if you are meeting people and planning to play with them at an event, those of you that are more experienced or more dominant have a role to help guide the less experienced or more submissive.
That means making sure you fully discuss all aspects of consent and work out what you are and are not prepared to do in as much detail as possible.
You have to assume that new people don't understand about consent.
Intimate acts include watching others and doing things to yourself - please don't do this unless you are 100% sure it is consensual with everyone involved and of course totally legal.
Any breaches of consent will not be tolerated at our events. We take this VERY seriously and appreciate your help and support in this matter.
Love you all.
David and crew x